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Friends..How many of Us Have Them?

Updated: May 1, 2020

How many of us have them! ( I used to love that song the rapper sings and I used to love it so much I think because I actually loved having friends. ) Listen to the beat here I used to listen to in high school and tell me what you think.

To be honest, I keep my circles small. Yet I love every now and then to chat with a good friend and catch up.

Recently , a few friends and I started working on  a   project  called : "Women Who Belong".    Oftentimes, women  tend to not  participate in group of women due to a lack of trust: or simply because they often  believe they  "don't  belong."  It hurts me when  women are left out of the  equation.   ANY   equation.   Any  relationship,  any time they  are hurting or  sad because  they  were forgotten or  sad  about something or  just wanted to belong to  something and someone    didn't  feel  as if they were worth it,  so they  left them out.

I  am  also a   very strong advocate   against  cliques. I've been hurt by them and I wish they were never even a thought.  Often without much consideration, people who create cliques,  are often not aware they are in them. I also believe cliques  are  so demeaning. I wish everyone knew  when they were being a part of one, though.  Sadly enough, they dont.

Luckily, I am a girl who's been kind of eccentric and figured out with time I could create my own communities.

I have found overtime that creating my own book clubs, my own writing groups and mentoring groups have just brought some really interesting women into my life, and cherished relationships I may have never found, otherwise.

They  say  cousins are our  first  friends.  We love  each other  so unconditionally, because we  are friends by the nature of being family, first. Recently, I been connected with a cousin-as -friend. And she's really neat! She treated me to Wendy's with her daughter and we had the best time catching up. Sometimes reaching out is not as complex as we make it to be. We just have to take a few risks. And of course, have a desire to "be".


1. It's not complex. Just ask someone you like to spend some time with you, and if they don't, keep asking til someone does!

2. What's your hobby? Do you have other friends who like to do the same? Invite them over with the hobby to share. I have one friend who just likes a good movie every now and then. So that's what we do go watch a good movie.

3. Try It's a major network online that connects people with  their hobbies and  interests. It  has been a place where I've showcased my awesome writer groups,  and found interesting people  desire to blend in, visit, laugh and share. If you're not the 'leader-type' , try  out a group that's already existing, and find your hobby.

4. Find a  group to belong to in the community. Libraries always have good symposiums and  showcase things happening in the community. Get out a visit them! See what you like and say hello to someone or ask a friend to go with you!

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